Smiley 175 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 Anyone done either? Just asking! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jules_darby 1,370 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 No, but I was fostered and adopted as a child. Well a baby really. And I feel very lucky. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Marc505 496 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 I see adoptions and adoption celebrations every day through work, truly inspiring seeing them succeed especially knowing what background the children have come from in many cases. Huge respect for any adopting family and not enough of them around, bloody heroes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Members MickyD 1,024 Posted December 26, 2017 Members Share Posted December 26, 2017 (edited) couple of friends of mine, both solicitors who are also friends with your in-laws, adopted a little girl a few years ago. I can put you in touch if you want. Edited December 26, 2017 by MickyD Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Site Supporter barryk32 269 Posted December 26, 2017 Site Supporter Share Posted December 26, 2017 Yes, sometimes difficult and challenging but ultimatley rewarding. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bolton in bedford 14 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 (edited) I used to assess and train prospective foster careers so happy to answer any questions you may have. FWIW those foster careers I've come across who do it for the right reasons are some of the most amazing people I've ever met. Edited December 26, 2017 by bolton in bedford Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Site Supporter barryk32 269 Posted December 26, 2017 Site Supporter Share Posted December 26, 2017 In fact it was only yesterday I realised what you'd done, Ive been properly confused with your Facebook updates for a while. She's a beaut congratulations. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
little whitt 496 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 I'm Adopted when I was 12 weeks old met my real mum and have 3 sisters never met my dad....he was married with 2 kids so I was told Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MalcolmW 492 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 Mark Steel's story of his search for his birth parents is currently on iPlayer, and well worth a listen. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
frank_spencer 622 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 One of our close friends is a Foster mum and is in the process of adopting one of the kids as he's severely disabled and they couldn't face sending him to care for the rest of his life. She's still in touch with the adoptive families of some of the kids she's fostered. If the wife's health allows it we've talked about fostering in a few years one mini me is older Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Duck Egg 220 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 Huge respect for any adopting family and not enough of them around, bloody heroes. Abso bloody lutely Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mickbrown 912 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 I know a bloke who has done it on his own. He’s finding it really hard. Can’t help but admire him for taking the little lad on. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mounts Kipper 2,555 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 Got a very good mate who’s brought up his own 2 kids and now at 57 adopted a young girl who’s got a lot of problems meet up with them quite often and always have a great time and the young girl is great fun despite her obvious problems. Good luck with it I’m sure it’ll add an extra dimension to your life. ???? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Site Supporter only1swanny 151 Posted December 26, 2017 Site Supporter Share Posted December 26, 2017 Wifey and I are planning to try to adopt in about 5/6 years. We want another but are thankful we managed to have 2. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
boltondiver 1,408 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 My parents adopted my brother 53 years ago; not an unalloyed success, but probably worked out ok Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Burndens Bogs 545 Posted December 26, 2017 Share Posted December 26, 2017 Unalloyed - now there's a word you don't hear often. I might see how many time i can use it this week. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Traf 2,709 Posted December 27, 2017 Share Posted December 27, 2017 The wife's car wheels are unalloyed Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Site Supporter Alf Hartigan 299 Posted December 27, 2017 Site Supporter Share Posted December 27, 2017 Birmingham city are unalloyed to Aston Villa Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Members MickyD 1,024 Posted December 27, 2017 Members Share Posted December 27, 2017 The Belfast kids may be forbidden from doing things. Are they unalloyed? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mike Hunt 101 Posted December 27, 2017 Share Posted December 27, 2017 Massive credit to you Smiley. Family that used to do youngest respite care do fostering. Amazing and lovely family and what a selfless fantastic thing to do. Hats off to you and all others offering to do this. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Horwich 206 Posted December 27, 2017 Share Posted December 27, 2017 Your gonna be mega Quote Link to post Share on other sites
frankietheman 12 Posted December 27, 2017 Share Posted December 27, 2017 Back in the day did a couple of Guardian Ad Litem applications for prospective adopters on behalf of the LA. Nice to have a positive outcome and see a family genuinely thrilled at bringing up a fostered child as one of their own. FWIW I think that foster carers are latter day saints that deserve every credit that is awarded them. 30 years on I still harbour fond memories of a Scottish family who would take on kids at the drop of a hat, no matter how disturbed and difficult they were, doing everything they could to see that those kid(s) had the best they could offer for the duration. Brings a tear to the old eyes even now! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Blondi 122 Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 My mate & his Mrs couldn't have kids, so they went down the adoption route. They adopted a baby, unfortunately the child devolped learning difficulties and at the moment her mental age is that of a 5 year old, she's now 15. I know my mate has found it very hard at times, like taking his daughter to say Mcdonalds, or going to a restaurant and even flying, people can be cruel especially kids and people laughing and sniggering has really upset him at times. He said he would never adopt again, but him & his Mrs are brilliant parents and their adoptive child is a lucky girl. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Boo 43 Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 The outlaws have just finished a 30 plus year stint of taking in foster kids. It's a very frustrating, emotional and can be a very rewarding venture to set out on.They fostered for an agency called Alpha Plus who take on the the most 'damaged' young uns which are left when councils cherry pick the least difficult kids. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ghana White 88 Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 Come across foster parents quite a bit through work over the years.. incredible people I don't know how they do it. Adoption wise I don't think you can do anything that will have as much a profound and positive effect on someone's life as adopt them. Not to mention something that will effect your own life as much. Congratulations Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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