Popular Post Ani Posted April 25 Popular Post Posted April 25 Rarely post much about my real world. But just spent afternoon visiting brother in law who is marking off the days in a hospice. Him and my missus hardly spoke in last couple of years due to a silly arguement. Daresay there are people in here with family rows going on. Get them sorted as nothing is a bad as seeing a brother and sister in floods of tears over the ‘lost time’. Fucking horrible. Quote
Tonge moor green jacket Posted April 25 Posted April 25 Shit situation. Can't change what's already gone, just got to be there for the missus. All the best with it. Quote
Lt. Aldo Raine Posted April 25 Posted April 25 Commiserations to you and yours @Ani As has been noted, a shit situation - I hope things go as well as they can do in these kind of circumstances Quote
little whitt Posted April 25 Posted April 25 2 hours ago, Ani said: Rarely post much about my real world. But just spent afternoon visiting brother in law who is marking off the days in a hospice. Him and my missus hardly spoke in last couple of years due to a silly arguement. Daresay there are people in here with family rows going on. Get them sorted as nothing is a bad as seeing a brother and sister in floods of tears over the ‘lost time’. Fucking horrible. Auguements probs whos in the WILL and whos Not Quote
London Wanderer Posted April 25 Posted April 25 2 hours ago, Lt. Aldo Raine said: Commiserations to you and yours @Ani As has been noted, a shit situation - I hope things go as well as they can do in these kind of circumstances Seconded sounds tough for her, & you good advice Quote
Ani Posted April 25 Author Posted April 25 43 minutes ago, little whitt said: Auguements probs whos in the WILL and whos Not Nah it was about who said what at a family do. My missus got blamed for what her mum said and it festered from there. Quote
gonzo Posted April 25 Posted April 25 When my Mum died my Brother hadn't spoken to her for years. Some silly row about seating plans at his wedding. By time he came to the hospital she was unable to speak and could just about nod. He asked if she was glad he came and she just about managed a nod. All those years lost in some silly row. You're so right Ani, thoughts with you x ...never go to bed on an argument. Quote
bolty58 Posted April 25 Posted April 25 Missus has three sisters. Only has owt to do with one. Pathetic and trivial disagreements. I've been telling them for years that they will regret it when the end inevitably comes. Still meets with total defiance. It happens but you rarely find two male siblings who do this. Happens yes but much more of a rarity. If there's a fall out it's long odds on there's a female involved. Cue the site feminazi. Quote
crawshawbooth Posted April 26 Posted April 26 i carried my uncles coffin last week ,and came home tonight after a long shift to a lovely card from my Auntie Family is important , and silly feuds about nowt is what social media thrives on Dont feed the beast , it cant exist !! Quote
Not in Crawley Posted April 26 Posted April 26 13 hours ago, gonzo said: When my Mum died my Brother hadn't spoken to her for years. Some silly row about seating plans at his wedding. By time he came to the hospital she was unable to speak and could just about nod. He asked if she was glad he came and she just about managed a nod. All those years lost in some silly row. You're so right Ani, thoughts with you x ...never go to bed on an argument. See, I think if you've had a tiff with your other half, it's always best to go to bed and it's generally fine in the morning. I'm with my Dad on this when he said to me, always go to bed on an argument - cooler heads will always prevail. Anyway I was back home last week, my sister pissed me right off on day one has she'd booked me in to take all the kids to the cinema without telling me so she could get her nails done - I get it she's got two young lads and they are exhausting. I had to work all day as a client had had a stress and I couldn't take them. She didn't speak to me for two days - but we left it and then sorted out when our temperature wasn't as high and it was all good as we love each other to bits, but no-one can annoy each other as much as we can 😁 Quote
ianofcleveleys Posted April 26 Posted April 26 19 hours ago, Ani said: Rarely post much about my real world. But just spent afternoon visiting brother in law who is marking off the days in a hospice. Him and my missus hardly spoke in last couple of years due to a silly arguement. Daresay there are people in here with family rows going on. Get them sorted as nothing is a bad as seeing a brother and sister in floods of tears over the ‘lost time’. Fucking horrible. Tough one, your advice is right, seen it play out like that all too often, in my own family and with folk I know. Quote
Ani Posted May 4 Author Posted May 4 Thanks for the supportive comments on here, it is really shit , we are off to hospice again today. The latest is that he has 2-3 weeks left and has decided he wants as many people as possible to be there when he goes. Trying to explain to people without seemingly heartless is not like you make an appointment with the vet to have a dog put down , you could be sat there for hours just waiting to be called , like a really shit Argos . Quote
Ani Posted May 4 Author Posted May 4 (edited) 2-3 weeks turned into 2-3 hours what a shit day. If anyone suggests that they would like people to be there for their final moments tell them it is the shittest idea ever. Edited May 4 by Ani Quote
BobyBrno Posted May 4 Posted May 4 34 minutes ago, Ani said: 2-3 weeks turned into 2-3 hours what a shit day. If anyone suggests that they would like people to be there for their final moments tell them it is the shittest idea ever. Sorry for your loss Ani. The end for all of us is something we have little control over. My experience with my Dad was something I’ll treasure. Bolton Royal Infirmary in the middle of the night. The end was near but the three of us (brother and sister) decided to take shifts. Luckily for me, it was my shift as he passed away holding my hand. Of course it’s different for everyone and people will have different views. Only 3 people I would like at my demise. Quote
mickbrown Posted May 4 Posted May 4 11 minutes ago, BobyBrno said: Sorry for your loss Ani. The end for all of us is something we have little control over. My experience with my Dad was something I’ll treasure. Bolton Royal Infirmary in the middle of the night. The end was near but the three of us (brother and sister) decided to take shifts. Luckily for me, it was my shift as he passed away holding my hand. Of course it’s different for everyone and people will have different views. Only 3 people I would like at my demise. Similar to my family’s experience, except my brother was there not me. Middle of the night and he’s climbed onto the bed with him and fell asleep. A nurse woke him up to say dad had gone. Was glad it was him as I’m a shithouse coward and he was always his favourite Quote
Zico Posted May 4 Posted May 4 16 minutes ago, BobyBrno said: Sorry for your loss Ani. The end for all of us is something we have little control over. My experience with my Dad was something I’ll treasure. Bolton Royal Infirmary in the middle of the night. The end was near but the three of us (brother and sister) decided to take shifts. Luckily for me, it was my shift as he passed away holding my hand. Of course it’s different for everyone and people will have different views. Only 3 people I would like at my demise. When we knew it was the end for my dad last year we had 4 days to spend with him at Townley's Everyone could make it to see him did We all just hung out all day every day He went in the night but my mum was with him and talking to him all the way to the end Wouldn't have wanted it any other way really Quote
Dimron Posted May 4 Posted May 4 1 hour ago, Ani said: 2-3 weeks turned into 2-3 hours what a shit day. If anyone suggests that they would like people to be there for their final moments tell them it is the shittest idea ever. I know where you're coming from but well done for being there. I'm going to die at 95 years from shotgun wounds delivered by an 18 year old lasses jealous boyfriend Quote
mickbrown Posted May 4 Posted May 4 1 hour ago, Ani said: 2-3 weeks turned into 2-3 hours what a shit day. If anyone suggests that they would like people to be there for their final moments tell them it is the shittest idea ever. Feel for you, mate. Be strong I want to go in my bed in the middle of the night, suddenly in my 90s with the least inconvenience to others as possible. Quote
Dimron Posted May 4 Posted May 4 11 minutes ago, mickbrown said: Feel for you, mate. Be strong I want to go in my bed in the middle of the night, suddenly in my 90s with the least inconvenience to others as possible. And chuck me in a wheelie bin in the morning Quote
Ani Posted May 4 Author Posted May 4 Thanks again for supportive comments, glad others have had positive experiences of being there at the end. Today there were seven of us in room, his wife, his mum, his sister, 2 daughters and a friend of the daughter kids are 15 and 20. He was in obvious discomfort despite the syringe box pumping non stop morphine in. His breathing was described as ‘apnea’ - like sleep apnea but he was not asleep- so basically stopping breathing and then suddenly gasping so gradually less oxygen getting to his brain, it was awful to watch, my missus had to leave the room and gradually everyone else did. They were all distraught. We lasted about 30 minutes, he died 2 hours later. Everyone got a chance to go back in and say goodbye which was nice. Think I will book a holiday tomorrow. Quote
London Wanderer Posted May 4 Posted May 4 1 hour ago, Ani said: Thanks again for supportive comments, glad others have had positive experiences of being there at the end. Today there were seven of us in room, his wife, his mum, his sister, 2 daughters and a friend of the daughter kids are 15 and 20. He was in obvious discomfort despite the syringe box pumping non stop morphine in. His breathing was described as ‘apnea’ - like sleep apnea but he was not asleep- so basically stopping breathing and then suddenly gasping so gradually less oxygen getting to his brain, it was awful to watch, my missus had to leave the room and gradually everyone else did. They were all distraught. We lasted about 30 minutes, he died 2 hours later. Everyone got a chance to go back in and say goodbye which was nice. Think I will book a holiday tomorrow. That’s really tough mate sorry for your loss A holiday is a great idea Quote
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