Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) your Mrs/partner/co habitant sending sympathy cards to ex's family right or wrong? cool or fuckin uncool? Edited January 9, 2012 by hughesy
jazza Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) edit: I didn't mean that Edited January 9, 2012 by jazza
Traf Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 your Mrs/partner/co habitant sending sympathy cards to ex's family right or wrong? cool or fuckin uncool? Sometimes it's about being the better/bigger person.
Site Supporter MickyD Posted January 9, 2012 Site Supporter Posted January 9, 2012 Sometimes it's about being the better/bigger person. Absolutely. I got on very well with an ex-girlfriend's mum and dad. They were very upset when their daughter fired me off. I still see them occasionally round Harwood and always have time for a chat. Your Mrs' ex is her ex. His parents or other relations shouldn't be a part of the split. Man up, become a bit more secure in your relationship and accept that a sympathy card doesn't mean she wants to get back with him.
jazza Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) In all seriousness, there's nothing wrong with it at all. as long as you are both secure about your relationship, why not. Just because she and her ex are no longer together doesn't mean that the friends she made through the relationship are are any less valid.. She should be able to express her sorrow for their loss to them. It doesn't mean she wants to go back, it just means she remembers. That's my take on it Edited January 9, 2012 by jazza
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 Sometimes it's about being the better/bigger person. hes a cunt traf and im not just saying that. im fairly level headed mate but fuck this has got right on my tits. (he is a cint im not just saying it)
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 Deary me. Get a grip! harsh brfore knowing the facts
no balls Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 hes a cunt traf and im not just saying that. im fairly level headed mate but fuck this has got right on my tits. (he is a cint im not just saying it) She's a grown your girlfriend, isn't she?
Site Supporter MickyD Posted January 9, 2012 Site Supporter Posted January 9, 2012 Deary me. Get a grip! This is the great thing about NB. My 80 word (ish) answer and her 5 word answer amount to pretty much exactly the same thing. Brevity; it's the future. My
anewman Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 whats wrong with it?? obviously very close if they feel the need to I had my ex sat with me at the front of my brothers funeral as theres just connections that cant be broken
Site Supporter MickyD Posted January 9, 2012 Site Supporter Posted January 9, 2012 So there's your answer Hughsey. It's a sympathy card not a valentines card.
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 whats wrong with it?? obviously very close if they feel the need to I had my ex sat with me at the front of my brothers funeral as theres just connections that cant be broken if it ends and you are friends then i can see that and can also relate to it but this didnt finish in owt like happy
no balls Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 It appears you've already made your mind up, so I'm not sure why you've asked for opinions.
Site Supporter MickyD Posted January 9, 2012 Site Supporter Posted January 9, 2012 As I already said. The relationship between your missus and her ex broke down, not the relationship with your missus and the ex's family. You need to understand that some very strong bonds are formed between her and her ex's parents/brothers/sisters, etc. Why would you expect that friendship to break down?
anewman Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 if it ends and you are friends then i can see that and can also relate to it but this didnt finish in owt like happy yeah but she didnt finish with his family, she finished with him
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 It appears you've already made your mind up, so I'm not sure why you've asked for opinions. i am a tad brassed off about it ill be honest. im letting off steam before i decide what to do. happen i feel strong about it for some reason
jazza Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 My Aunt died in November... she was my last relative... I've nobody left... not as cousin not anyone. My ex-wife realised that and much though she has been a cunt to me she knew I was all on my own at the funeral and went with me. I respect her for that, she helped me through a really tough day in her way of it. Some things come above personal feelings. I don't know you or your situation Hughsey, only you know that but don't think bad of her for wanting to help... in my book it means she has kindness in her heart and the fact she is with you says it all.
Walkden26 Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Its only a card - if she was round there to comfort him it might be a different situation altogether. I wouldn't take any notice of it. You'll look an insensitive prick if you was to ko over it.
no balls Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 i am a tad brassed off about it ill be honest. im letting off steam before i decide what to do. happen i feel strong about it for some reason My ex husband looked after my father whilst he was dying more than me and my mum put together. When I caught him knocking about, I wasn't best pleased. My mother wasn't but she still cared very much for him and nothing could ever break that bond. Life experience makes lines blur,. It's your girlfriends choice to send the card & you should have the emotional intelliegence to respect that, not kick off with her.
leigh white Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) Still good mates with all the ex girlfriends this century. Edited January 9, 2012 by leigh white
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 My ex husband looked after my father whilst he was dying more than me and my mum put together. When I caught him knocking about, I wasn't best pleased. My mother wasn't but she still cared very much for him and nothing could ever break that bond. Life experience makes lines blur,. It's your girlfriends choice to send the card & you should have the emotional intelliegence to respect that, not kick off with her. i was never gonna do that. her intentions werent bad
no balls Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 i was never gonna do that. her intentions werent bad Then I suggest you keep your own counsel with your good lady. It'll gain you brownie points, or at least make you look like one of them modern men who let their women make her own decisions
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