Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) your Mrs/partner/co habitant sending sympathy cards to ex's family right or wrong? cool or fuckin uncool? Edited January 9, 2012 by hughesy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gonzo Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 would do my head in to be honest mate..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Breightmet Boy Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 Ex's are ex's for a reason in my book. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazza Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) edit: I didn't mean that Edited January 9, 2012 by jazza Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Traf Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 your Mrs/partner/co habitant sending sympathy cards to ex's family right or wrong? cool or fuckin uncool? Sometimes it's about being the better/bigger person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
no balls Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 Deary me. Get a grip! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Site Supporter MickyD Posted January 9, 2012 Site Supporter Share Posted January 9, 2012 Sometimes it's about being the better/bigger person. Absolutely. I got on very well with an ex-girlfriend's mum and dad. They were very upset when their daughter fired me off. I still see them occasionally round Harwood and always have time for a chat. Your Mrs' ex is her ex. His parents or other relations shouldn't be a part of the split. Man up, become a bit more secure in your relationship and accept that a sympathy card doesn't mean she wants to get back with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazza Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) In all seriousness, there's nothing wrong with it at all. as long as you are both secure about your relationship, why not. Just because she and her ex are no longer together doesn't mean that the friends she made through the relationship are are any less valid.. She should be able to express her sorrow for their loss to them. It doesn't mean she wants to go back, it just means she remembers. That's my take on it Edited January 9, 2012 by jazza Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 Sometimes it's about being the better/bigger person. hes a cunt traf and im not just saying that. im fairly level headed mate but fuck this has got right on my tits. (he is a cint im not just saying it) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 Deary me. Get a grip! harsh brfore knowing the facts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
no balls Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 hes a cunt traf and im not just saying that. im fairly level headed mate but fuck this has got right on my tits. (he is a cint im not just saying it) She's a grown your girlfriend, isn't she? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Site Supporter MickyD Posted January 9, 2012 Site Supporter Share Posted January 9, 2012 Deary me. Get a grip! This is the great thing about NB. My 80 word (ish) answer and her 5 word answer amount to pretty much exactly the same thing. Brevity; it's the future. My Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anewman Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 whats wrong with it?? obviously very close if they feel the need to I had my ex sat with me at the front of my brothers funeral as theres just connections that cant be broken Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Site Supporter MickyD Posted January 9, 2012 Site Supporter Share Posted January 9, 2012 So there's your answer Hughsey. It's a sympathy card not a valentines card. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 whats wrong with it?? obviously very close if they feel the need to I had my ex sat with me at the front of my brothers funeral as theres just connections that cant be broken if it ends and you are friends then i can see that and can also relate to it but this didnt finish in owt like happy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
no balls Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 It appears you've already made your mind up, so I'm not sure why you've asked for opinions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Site Supporter MickyD Posted January 9, 2012 Site Supporter Share Posted January 9, 2012 As I already said. The relationship between your missus and her ex broke down, not the relationship with your missus and the ex's family. You need to understand that some very strong bonds are formed between her and her ex's parents/brothers/sisters, etc. Why would you expect that friendship to break down? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anewman Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 if it ends and you are friends then i can see that and can also relate to it but this didnt finish in owt like happy yeah but she didnt finish with his family, she finished with him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 It appears you've already made your mind up, so I'm not sure why you've asked for opinions. i am a tad brassed off about it ill be honest. im letting off steam before i decide what to do. happen i feel strong about it for some reason Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazza Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 My Aunt died in November... she was my last relative... I've nobody left... not as cousin not anyone. My ex-wife realised that and much though she has been a cunt to me she knew I was all on my own at the funeral and went with me. I respect her for that, she helped me through a really tough day in her way of it. Some things come above personal feelings. I don't know you or your situation Hughsey, only you know that but don't think bad of her for wanting to help... in my book it means she has kindness in her heart and the fact she is with you says it all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walkden26 Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 Its only a card - if she was round there to comfort him it might be a different situation altogether. I wouldn't take any notice of it. You'll look an insensitive prick if you was to ko over it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
no balls Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 i am a tad brassed off about it ill be honest. im letting off steam before i decide what to do. happen i feel strong about it for some reason My ex husband looked after my father whilst he was dying more than me and my mum put together. When I caught him knocking about, I wasn't best pleased. My mother wasn't but she still cared very much for him and nothing could ever break that bond. Life experience makes lines blur,. It's your girlfriends choice to send the card & you should have the emotional intelliegence to respect that, not kick off with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leigh white Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) Still good mates with all the ex girlfriends this century. Edited January 9, 2012 by leigh white Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piemon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 My ex husband looked after my father whilst he was dying more than me and my mum put together. When I caught him knocking about, I wasn't best pleased. My mother wasn't but she still cared very much for him and nothing could ever break that bond. Life experience makes lines blur,. It's your girlfriends choice to send the card & you should have the emotional intelliegence to respect that, not kick off with her. i was never gonna do that. her intentions werent bad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
no balls Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 i was never gonna do that. her intentions werent bad Then I suggest you keep your own counsel with your good lady. It'll gain you brownie points, or at least make you look like one of them modern men who let their women make her own decisions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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