We all have them don’t we? 
 

I thought I’ve done alright in my family but as I’ve got older I’ve seen the ‘fun’ uncle become a raging alcoholic and not a very nice person

The uncle who I thought was cooler than the other side of the pillow, then moved to America after his first marriage split and left his two daughters on the other side of the world just when they were becoming teenagers and barely contacts them now

The Aunty who I know votes UKIP but is probably part of the BNP

But now I have a brother in law who on the surface is a nice guy, but what a selfish prick a because he can’t have someone cook for him, look after his kid whilst getting drunk on Christmas Day.

Rant over

Oh and If you don’t have a nobhead in the family, you’re the nobhead 

3 hours ago, Casino said:

My memory is shit and it may not have been LPA as my dad wasn't in good enough health to give his authority, but im pretty sure a solicitor has to witness signatures on such docs?

Might be wrong

Don’t think so.....

Need to be witnessed by somebody I’m pretty sure but doesn’t need to be a notary 

We’ve done ours quite recently. Needs to be witnessed by two people who aren’t relatives or have a vested interest in any relevant wills, but the witnesses don’t need to be solicitors or owt

20 minutes ago, Leyther_Matt said:

We’ve done ours quite recently. Needs to be witnessed by two people who aren’t relatives or have a vested interest in any relevant wills, but the witnesses don’t need to be solicitors or owt

Fair enough and thinking about it, I think it was a deprivation of liberty order

Either way, not sure there were adequate witnesses to Mrs Ds signature

Agreed it’s highly unlikely it will have any form Of legality 

House across the road from my mums is in a right state. The old dear died and the old fella is in a dementia home. The son can do nowt with it due to no POA

That spurred my mum to do it for me and my bro and nobody else

Her neighbour was the witness. That was all

Very grateful that she didn’t involve any in-laws. I feel for you @MickyD that must be a really difficult situation

It’s shit because at the moment, father in law is ok but getting a bit forgetful and, politely put, open to suggestion. My wife, because she lives nearby is probably the person he sees most but her attitude is that she would rather her dad lives forever so won’t even talk about the what ifs and such. Her sister, on the other hand, really is a money grabbing witch who, without actually saying as much, can’t wait to be inheriting his money. She comes up every couple of weekends but the two sisters can’t bear to be together because of their differences in attitude towards dad’s health and cash.

I’m wary of coming between sisters even though you could drive a bus through the gap between them. The real worry is that I come between dad and MrsD.

The problem is, saying something means I don’t trust the sister and not saying something may put my wife in danger of being fleeced. 
 

Shitsville!

 

Micky. Ask for a copy just for your records for safekeeping (well mrs d to ask). Then go and get some formal advice on whether it’s enforceable. If not problem solved and you don’t ever need to raise it again pal 

That’s shit. Personally, and you can ignore my opinion entirely, is that I would stay away and leave them to it. Not worth it. Leave Mrs D to deal with her sister. You get involved and suddenly you’re the cunt in the whole scenario. All the best Micky. Hope it works out in the end 👍

My son was nine year old when his mother passed away in 96, her two remaining brothers managed to change their fathers will when his health was failing, he died in 2014 and left a fortune to the both of them, my son was offered a grand and told them to fuck off and keep it.

Wife went to her dad’s earlier. I asked her to ask him to explain what this LPA is all about.

As I suspected, he didn’t have a clue.

1 hour ago, MickyD said:

Wife went to her dad’s earlier. I asked her to ask him to explain what this LPA is all about.

As I suspected, he didn’t have a clue.

Mick been up to my neck in this all year, notified about 4 years back they named me

all documentation is held at solicitors , when the time comes you/ or wife need to activate it

solicitors will send you the documentation , it is a sizable thing and whatever you are doing copies are not enough . Everyone needs the real deal , i have financial, to have medical is very unusual

Spent some time a week ago talking to a solicitor on Silverwell Street ,told me he had only taken on medical once in 15 years

if you need help / advice message me ,but i am no expert though i can share the experiences

Been looking after their money for a year now , but now dad has passed i think the real fun will start

10 hours ago, crawshawbooth said:

Mick been up to my neck in this all year, notified about 4 years back they named me

all documentation is held at solicitors , when the time comes you/ or wife need to activate it

solicitors will send you the documentation , it is a sizable thing and whatever you are doing copies are not enough . Everyone needs the real deal , i have financial, to have medical is very unusual

Spent some time a week ago talking to a solicitor on Silverwell Street ,told me he had only taken on medical once in 15 years

if you need help / advice message me ,but i am no expert though i can share the experiences

Been looking after their money for a year now , but now dad has passed i think the real fun will start

Modern LPAs, from 2007, don't need activating.

Mine are fucking atrocious at the moment. You'd think with the current situation in the world they'd fucking get on. Nope. Worse than ever. 

I'm going finding a island and sitting on it with the fucking dog. At least he's not a dickhead. 

I feel for you Micky D, when my grandma got dementia my uncle went through her flat to find her will. When he found it and saw he was getting nothing he sent her upto Bolton from where she lived and basically washed his hands of her.. he was a millionaire so didnt need any. Whenever you went to see him he spent all his time moaning about scroungers then told you he hadn't paid any tax in years and those who did were mugs. 

Anyone looking at doing a will tomski and me know a wanderer who does a great job

my mum died in 1978 and left 20 grand (compensation from a bad accident at work) in cash 'for the kids' my older brother and sister took the lot, cnuts of the highest order, i have never spoken to them since or ever will

7 minutes ago, athywhite1958 said:

my mum died in 1978 and left 20 grand (compensation from a bad accident at work) in cash 'for the kids' my older brother and sister took the lot, cnuts of the highest order, i have never spoken to them since or ever will

See it all the time. A person dies and the greedy selfish cunts appear. 

Shouldn’t leave owt for anyone I think the moral of the story here seems

2 minutes ago, tomski said:

Shouldn’t leave owt for anyone I think the moral of the story here seems

My kids can have the house, everything else is going to the dogs home

2 minutes ago, tomski said:

Shouldn’t leave owt for anyone I think the moral of the story here seems

My plan is to leave the house and the rest is for spending.

Done our wills and funeral plans in the last month or two but the powers of attorney thing has been a right pain sending the forms back and forth with the various forms that need signing and witnessing. 

I forgot another highlight of the nobhead uncle, he said that no one would achieve anything in life with a bolton accent ( he came from Watford!!)

17 minutes ago, Ghana White said:

I forgot another highlight of the nobhead uncle, he said that no one would achieve anything in life with a bolton accent ( he came from Watford!!)

Haha

3 hours ago, bolton_blondie said:

See it all the time. A person dies and the greedy selfish cunts appear. 

There are/were 4 of us, me and my younger brother got fuck all, the older 2 got the lot, my kids have often asked why they have no uncles or aunties 😀

Edited February 7, 20215 yr by athywhite1958

3 hours ago, athywhite1958 said:

my mum died in 1978 and left 20 grand (compensation from a bad accident at work) in cash 'for the kids' my older brother and sister took the lot, cnuts of the highest order, i have never spoken to them since or ever will

could have got a nice house back then with 5k