For those that questioned why I didn’t attend the game last Saturday, this was why. My daughter asked me to go to the Pride parade with her, have a few drinks, a meal, and generally have a catch up on her life and her website project. She doesn’t live with me so I don’t see her that often so face to face time is very valuable

I’ve highlighted one particular part of her social media post from today. That is a nod to WWays. She was stunned by the response from here. I thank all of you that contributed feedback once again for your support.......

 

 

As some of you may remember, a year ago I set up a website that allows people to submit and share their personal stories regarding mental health, encouraging people to use their voice and realise that they're not going through this alone.

The response I received was absolutely insane. That insane in fact, that I shut it down after a few months as I couldn't cope with managing the website alongside my own mental health.

But now I'm back 💥 I'm in a better place with my mental health, I'm currently in the process of purchasing my first home, and next week I start my dream job as a Teaching Assistant in a special educational needs school.

So I've decided to relaunch my project. A website where you can anonymously submit your mental health story, in the form of poetry, short stories, song lyrics, or simply anything that expresses you.

www.mindofourown.co.uk

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Good that.

Sort of highlights the awkwardness that can be present if blokes just ring each other for no other reason than just to say hello. 

Must admit though, I wonder if the players had to be selective about who they rang.

Can just imagine a bloke on the other end:

"Al'reet shag- is that cunt "£%<:;]" still pissing everyone off, and have you banged that bird from the hotel yet".

Absolutely love that.

Just a simple chat like that can break the mind cycle.

I'll have days where I don't speak to a soul and the mind can eat itself, just a little chat can break that.

I'm a nightmare for phonecalls which isn't good

4 minutes ago, gonzo said:

Absolutely love that.

Just a simple chat like that can break the mind cycle.

I'll have days where I don't speak to a soul and the mind can eat itself, just a little chat can break that.

I'm a nightmare for phonecalls which isn't good

I get it 

But honestly 

If a mate rang me and just said, how you doing 

I'd be like

What do you want? Why are you ringing me

I hate being on the phone

 

Seen as Zico doesn’t like a phone call 

How are we all doing then ? 

19 minutes ago, London Wanderer said:

Seen as Zico doesn’t like a phone call 

How are we all doing then ? 

I much prefer checking in on here

I'm ok

I just keep trying to not have a beer during the week and end up having a beer during the week, then get frustrated for doing so

Think it would be easier mentally if I didn't set myself challenges not to drink

 

8 minutes ago, Zico said:

I much prefer checking in on here

I'm ok

I just keep trying to not have a beer during the week and end up having a beer during the week, then get frustrated for doing so

Think it would be easier mentally if I didn't set myself challenges not to drink

 

Aye

Often feel similar when I set myself challenges around exercise etc and don't meet them. Even if I've had quite an active day I'll still be hard on myself.

Are we talking just a beer in the week or a few at a time? Might be easier to say I'll have a drink on Wednesday to begin with. 

Edited October 10, 2025Oct 10 by London Wanderer

8 minutes ago, Zico said:

I much prefer checking in on here

I'm ok

I just keep trying to not have a beer during the week and end up having a beer during the week, then get frustrated for doing so

Think it would be easier mentally if I didn't set myself challenges not to drink

 

That's simlly because you're a centrist non midweek drinking challengingoconclastic puff

Anyway, how are you pal 

3 minutes ago, London Wanderer said:

Aye

Often feel similar when I set myself challenges around exercise etc and don't meet them. Even if I've had quite an active day I'll still be hard on myself.

Are we talking just a beer in the week or a few at a time? Might be easier to say I'll have a drink on Wednesday to begin with. 

Your biggest challenge is to shoot your load over a Nippy wank

That is a challenge to be fair fella 😉 x

2 minutes ago, miamiwhite said:

Your biggest challenge is to shoot your load over a Nippy wank

That is a challenge to be fair fella 😉 x

What the fck is this 😄

1 hour ago, Zico said:

I get it 

But honestly 

If a mate rang me and just said, how you doing 

I'd be like

What do you want? Why are you ringing me

I hate being on the phone

 

Exactly. 

You'd be a boy suspicious, or worried that something was wrong with them. 

Just now, London Wanderer said:

What the fck is this 😄

You were her biggest fan Dumbo, please don't deny it......FreeeeeeeDummmmmbbbb bastards 😉 x

12 minutes ago, miamiwhite said:

You were her biggest fan Dumbo, please don't deny it......FreeeeeeeDummmmmbbbb bastards 😉 x

I'm not sure what you're on tonight fella. Can you not take this shite to another thread ? 😊

8 minutes ago, London Wanderer said:

I'm not sure what you're on tonight fella. Can you not take this shite to another thread ? 😊

My sincere apologies fella 

Having my health conditions you surely must understand 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anyway, where's the Independence you spouted about a few years ago you whopper 😂 😂 

I've got your tweets x

Just now, miamiwhite said:

My sincere apologies fella 

Having my health conditions you surely must understand 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anyway, where's the Independence you spouted about a few years ago you whopper 😂 😂 

I've got your tweets x

I've never sent a tweet in my life mate. 

Sleep tight mate.

One day it will be so 

8 minutes ago, London Wanderer said:

I've never sent a tweet in my life mate. 

Sleep tight mate.

One day it will be so 

Apologies Darren, I've got your posts on here re Nick x

Darren is your surname isn't it ? 

If you know x

😂 

1 hour ago, Zico said:

I much prefer checking in on here

I'm ok

I just keep trying to not have a beer during the week and end up having a beer during the week, then get frustrated for doing so

Think it would be easier mentally if I didn't set myself challenges not to drink

 

Setting unrealistic goals and therefore setting yourself up to fail is a symptom . 

unless this was in jest and Ive walked into the middle of a conversation . 

 

Btw has the Norwich City advert for mental health been posted ? Its very good . 

2 hours ago, Zico said:

I much prefer checking in on here

I'm ok

I just keep trying to not have a beer during the week and end up having a beer during the week, then get frustrated for doing so

Think it would be easier mentally if I didn't set myself challenges not to drink

 

Just challenge yourself to drink during the week then you'll feel good about yourself by the weekend.

And can treat yourself to a few beers to celebrate a successful week.

Problem solved.

1 hour ago, London Wanderer said:

I've never sent a tweet in my life mate. 

Sleep tight mate.

One day it will be so 

Really 

It’s ironic that today is my birthday. I’ve felt like shite at times today.
 

Obvs a massive funeral a stones throw away… I’ve not told anyone in the office it’s my birthday, I’ve only worked there 10 years. Had lunch and beer by myself… went back in, clocked out and spent 3 hours on an application that made me question why I bother… then missus tells me all the horrors of her job, and the sad shit some kids go through

the world is such a twisted place, think I feel better for writing it down… I’ve been guilty of avoiding messages and calls myself today, cos I just couldn’t face it

tomorrows another day

we go again

everyone get some rest x

 

A friend/colleague of mine committed suicide Sunday night. 43 years old and a LSA at our school.

Sadly, mental health and alcohol was his downfall.

He'd suffered for years on and off and went from one extreme to another. When he wasn't boozing he'd train and enter Iron Man courses around UK and Spain.

After I'd finished work tonight me and a colleague went where he jumped.

It was horrible but peaceful (given where it was) and gave me a little closure after thinking about him most of this week.

I know there's nothing I could have done to prevent it. He's always had good folk around him and help available ...  but you always ask yourself questions don't you

RIP DG

 

58 minutes ago, Dr Faustus said:

It’s ironic that today is my birthday. I’ve felt like shite at times today.
 

Obvs a massive funeral a stones throw away… I’ve not told anyone in the office it’s my birthday, I’ve only worked there 10 years. Had lunch and beer by myself… went back in, clocked out and spent 3 hours on an application that made me question why I bother… then missus tells me all the horrors of her job, and the sad shit some kids go through

the world is such a twisted place, think I feel better for writing it down… I’ve been guilty of avoiding messages and calls myself today, cos I just couldn’t face it

tomorrows another day

we go again

everyone get some rest x

 

Happy Birthday mate 

Like you said ... Tomorrow's another day. 

Keep going for your family, friends and the simple things in life. It might not seem worth it to you but it's probably all they want and love you for who you are.

Life is shit at times but you've got to be strong and keep going for yourself and them.

Dm open if you wanna chat.

1 hour ago, wanderer1984 said:

A friend/colleague of mine committed suicide Sunday night. 43 years old and a LSA at our school.

Sadly, mental health and alcohol was his downfall.

He'd suffered for years on and off and went from one extreme to another. When he wasn't boozing he'd train and enter Iron Man courses around UK and Spain.

After I'd finished work tonight me and a colleague went where he jumped.

It was horrible but peaceful (given where it was) and gave me a little closure after thinking about him most of this week.

I know there's nothing I could have done to prevent it. He's always had good folk around him and help available ...  but you always ask yourself questions don't you

RIP DG

 

Must have been a rough day mate.

Very brave to go the place it happened, not sure I could do that. 

Retired Ex nurse with 20 years of experience in A&E and ICU , dual qualified as a Mental Health Nurse with 10 years experience in forensic and non-forensic  institutions . 1 of only 3 at the time . Further degree in Philosophy 

Antidepressants since 2001 , survivor of long term depression & burn out  and nervous breakdowns X3 . Also trained in alcohol addiction 

Non Judgmental , excellent listener , no cost , sounding board to rant , vent or anything else . Willing to travel anywhere in the North West . 

DM if you think I can help . 

5 hours ago, wanderer1984 said:

A friend/colleague of mine committed suicide Sunday night. 43 years old and a LSA at our school.

Sadly, mental health and alcohol was his downfall.

He'd suffered for years on and off and went from one extreme to another. When he wasn't boozing he'd train and enter Iron Man courses around UK and Spain.

After I'd finished work tonight me and a colleague went where he jumped.

It was horrible but peaceful (given where it was) and gave me a little closure after thinking about him most of this week.

I know there's nothing I could have done to prevent it. He's always had good folk around him and help available ...  but you always ask yourself questions don't you

RIP DG

 

Sorry to hear that mate. 

I've lost a couple people that way and it inevitably leaves questions but ultimately there is nothing you could do. 

Smile because you knew him and raise a glass this evening for him 🍻

 

11 hours ago, Zico said:

I get it 

But honestly 

If a mate rang me and just said, how you doing 

I'd be like

What do you want? Why are you ringing me

I hate being on the phone

 

Hiya mate. You ok?

”why?”

I’ve got mates like this. Don’t bother phoning them anymore. Just send them videos that if they open, orgasm noises come out incredibly loudly 

We all just live in WhatsApp groups now don’t we 

Edited October 11, 2025Oct 11 by boltonboris