DazBob Posted July 5, 2023 Posted July 5, 2023 As has been said above, there is no rule book or right or wrong way. Sorry to hear of your loss @Dr Faustus. Quote
gonzo Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 Anyone else struggle to relax? Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries. Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly. Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain. Quote
royal white Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 1 minute ago, gonzo said: Anyone else struggle to relax? Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries. Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly. Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain. Nowt wrong with that mate. People relax in different ways, relaxing for me is going for a long walk with the ear phones in. Quote
Marc505 Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 9 minutes ago, gonzo said: Anyone else struggle to relax? Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries. Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly. I can't and I've worked out its either an upbringing thing, OCD or both. I can't relax until all the odd jobs are done. Cant watch telly or go on xbox, read or whatever until everything is clean and tidy and that's either from my mum bollocking me about not being able to go out or play on Sonic or whatever until I've done the chores - or it's an OCD thing. Took a long time to actually bite the bullet and research it but I've got this thing called "Magical Thinking". Like where your mind creates insane penalties for not carrying out totally unrelated menial tasks. Like "If I don't put this cutlery away in this particular order, and within the next 30 seconds, then **** will die." When it's at its worst it takes over every minute task in a day. I should speak to someone about it really 😂 Quote
Tonge moor green jacket Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 5 minutes ago, Marc505 said: I can't and I've worked out its either an upbringing thing, OCD or both. I can't relax until all the odd jobs are done. Cant watch telly or go on xbox, read or whatever until everything is clean and tidy and that's either from my mum bollocking me about not being able to go out or play on Sonic or whatever until I've done the chores - or it's an OCD thing. Took a long time to actually bite the bullet and research it but I've got this thing called "Magical Thinking". Like where your mind creates insane penalties for not carrying out totally unrelated menial tasks. Like "If I don't put this cutlery away in this particular order, and within the next 30 seconds, then **** will die." When it's at its worst it takes over every minute task in a day. I should speak to someone about it really 😂 I've had a touch of that, cbt can help. Can be connected to a previous mental trauma or suchlike. Quote
gonzo Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 51 minutes ago, royal white said: Nowt wrong with that mate. People relax in different ways, relaxing for me is going for a long walk with the ear phones in. Mad innit. My wife can easily plonk down with a big bag of sweets and nail a full boxset without moving a muscle. Im now building the lads footy net he got for his birthday. @Marc505in a similar way, I have to earn my pint or tea later. Dont think Ill die like Quote
radcliffe white Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 1 hour ago, gonzo said: Anyone else struggle to relax? Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries. Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly. Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain. Very much Mrs says don’t get up early at weekends but I’m programmed for 5.30, just been away I’m on the beach at 6am for a walk as I’m wide awake Not got the patience/attention to watch tv as I’m up all fidgety, also hate staying in one pub I get bored need to move on Love going for random walks the mrs thinks I’m bonkers Quote
Marc505 Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 1 hour ago, Tonge moor green jacket said: I've had a touch of that, cbt can help. Can be connected to a previous mental trauma or suchlike. I've heard CBT is the way to deal with it. Also simply by breaking the hold of it by not doing what your mind is telling you to do. Much harder than it sounds though! 38 minutes ago, gonzo said: @Marc505in a similar way, I have to earn my pint or tea later. Dont think Ill die like Wouldn't mind, its never me in danger! Quote
London Wanderer Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 2 hours ago, gonzo said: Anyone else struggle to relax? Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries. Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly. Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain. Have you tried milk thistle mate? Quote
mickbrown Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 2 hours ago, gonzo said: Anyone else struggle to relax? Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries. Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly. Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain. Nope, I'm the other way . I can quite happily while away a day doing absolutely fuck all Quote
gonzo Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 10 minutes ago, London Wanderer said: Have you tried milk thistle mate? Just mixed some in my bong water Quote
Casino Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 1 hour ago, mickbrown said: Nope, I'm the other way . I can quite happily while away a day doing absolutely fuck all Me too But i call it lethargy Quote
MancWanderer Posted July 23, 2023 Author Posted July 23, 2023 3 hours ago, Marc505 said: I can't and I've worked out its either an upbringing thing, OCD or both. I can't relax until all the odd jobs are done. Cant watch telly or go on xbox, read or whatever until everything is clean and tidy and that's either from my mum bollocking me about not being able to go out or play on Sonic or whatever until I've done the chores - or it's an OCD thing. Took a long time to actually bite the bullet and research it but I've got this thing called "Magical Thinking". Like where your mind creates insane penalties for not carrying out totally unrelated menial tasks. Like "If I don't put this cutlery away in this particular order, and within the next 30 seconds, then **** will die." When it's at its worst it takes over every minute task in a day. I should speak to someone about it really 😂 I’m similar. Never switch the telly on til gone 7pm. Mrs says that I look for things to do - gardening, DIY, cleaning, swimming, etc. Never lie in. Will always get up and find summat to do. Love time on my own. I find all that relaxing tbh Quote
frank_spencer Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 2 hours ago, Marc505 said: I've heard CBT is the way to deal with it. Also simply by breaking the hold of it by not doing what your mind is telling you to do. Much harder than it sounds though! Wouldn't mind, its never me in danger! Don't recommend CBT to Gonzo rather than a seeing a shrink he'll be getting a lass in hobnail boots to kick him in the knackers. Quote
only1swanny Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 I struggle to sit still (ball ache when driving). Tend to just move around a bit and work a lot. Quote
mickbrown Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 5 hours ago, Casino said: Me too But i call it lethargy I'm definitely one of life's loafers. Quote
MancWanderer Posted July 23, 2023 Author Posted July 23, 2023 2 hours ago, mickbrown said: I'm definitely one of life's loafers. Love the word “loafer” Reminds me of this Madness classic Quote
FrancisFogarty Posted July 25, 2023 Posted July 25, 2023 On 23/07/2023 at 12:02, gonzo said: Anyone else struggle to relax? Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries. Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly. Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain. I’m still pissing about quietly tidying up and putting stuff away. It’s now 3:55am. I’m waiting for about 4:30 when I’ll get to sleep probably. Quote
Tonge moor green jacket Posted August 8, 2023 Posted August 8, 2023 On 21/12/2022 at 16:39, Leyther_Matt said: Cheers both. He's been on medication for a couple of weeks now so hopefully that will help to control things. Had s pretty severe seizure last night. Out of the blue. A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit. Certainly a mixed bag of approaches. Quote
Leyther_Matt Posted August 8, 2023 Posted August 8, 2023 (edited) 4 hours ago, Tonge moor green jacket said: Had s pretty severe seizure last night. Out of the blue. A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit. Certainly a mixed bag of approaches. We had years of that before finally getting a diagnosis and the medication to go with it. Sadly it seems there’s likely to be a few more seizures ahead before you’re able to get to that stage. Hope you’re up and about soon enough. Must be an incredibly draining experience. And so frustrating to not know the cause. All the best pal. Edited August 8, 2023 by Leyther_Matt Added best wishes like a normal person Quote
London Wanderer Posted August 8, 2023 Posted August 8, 2023 2 hours ago, Tonge moor green jacket said: Had s pretty severe seizure last night. Out of the blue. A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit. Certainly a mixed bag of approaches. Hope you’re alright bud Quote
only1swanny Posted August 8, 2023 Posted August 8, 2023 3 hours ago, Tonge moor green jacket said: Had s pretty severe seizure last night. Out of the blue. A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit. Certainly a mixed bag of approaches. absolute farce sometimes. Only round corner if you need anything or want a brew with a chatterbox 😛 Quote
gonzo Posted August 8, 2023 Posted August 8, 2023 53 minutes ago, London Wanderer said: Hope you’re alright bud Seconded. Keep well mate Quote
royal white Posted August 8, 2023 Posted August 8, 2023 4 hours ago, Tonge moor green jacket said: Had s pretty severe seizure last night. Out of the blue. A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit. Certainly a mixed bag of approaches. Hope you’re feeling better mate 👍 Quote
Tonge moor green jacket Posted August 8, 2023 Posted August 8, 2023 Thanks all for the best wishes. Sore body- calves like you're cramping up after 30 minutes of extra time. Neck and shoulders, and a badly bitten tongue making swallowing difficult. Mainly knackered, but quite pleased with how well I'm recovering. Couple of days and should be fine, except for driving of course. Whether it was due (at least in part) to stress etc, who knows. Quote
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