For those that questioned why I didn’t attend the game last Saturday, this was why. My daughter asked me to go to the Pride parade with her, have a few drinks, a meal, and generally have a catch up on her life and her website project. She doesn’t live with me so I don’t see her that often so face to face time is very valuable

I’ve highlighted one particular part of her social media post from today. That is a nod to WWays. She was stunned by the response from here. I thank all of you that contributed feedback once again for your support.......

 

 

As some of you may remember, a year ago I set up a website that allows people to submit and share their personal stories regarding mental health, encouraging people to use their voice and realise that they're not going through this alone.

The response I received was absolutely insane. That insane in fact, that I shut it down after a few months as I couldn't cope with managing the website alongside my own mental health.

But now I'm back 💥 I'm in a better place with my mental health, I'm currently in the process of purchasing my first home, and next week I start my dream job as a Teaching Assistant in a special educational needs school.

So I've decided to relaunch my project. A website where you can anonymously submit your mental health story, in the form of poetry, short stories, song lyrics, or simply anything that expresses you.

www.mindofourown.co.uk

Edited August 27, 20196 yr by MancWanderer

Anyone else struggle to relax?

Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries.

Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly.

Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain.

 

1 minute ago, gonzo said:

Anyone else struggle to relax?

Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries.

Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly.

Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain.

 

Nowt wrong with that mate. People relax in different ways, relaxing for me is going for a long walk with the ear phones in. 

9 minutes ago, gonzo said:

Anyone else struggle to relax?

Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries.

Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly.

 

I can't and I've worked out its either an upbringing thing, OCD or both.

I can't relax until all the odd jobs are done. Cant watch telly or go on xbox, read or whatever until everything is clean and tidy and that's either from my mum bollocking me about not being able to go out or play on Sonic or whatever until I've done the chores - or it's an OCD thing.

Took a long time to actually bite the bullet and research it but I've got this thing called "Magical Thinking". Like where your mind creates insane penalties for not carrying out totally unrelated menial tasks. Like "If I don't put this cutlery away in this particular order, and within the next 30 seconds, then **** will die."

When it's at its worst it takes over every minute task in a day. I should speak to someone about it really 😂

5 minutes ago, Marc505 said:

I can't and I've worked out its either an upbringing thing, OCD or both.

I can't relax until all the odd jobs are done. Cant watch telly or go on xbox, read or whatever until everything is clean and tidy and that's either from my mum bollocking me about not being able to go out or play on Sonic or whatever until I've done the chores - or it's an OCD thing.

Took a long time to actually bite the bullet and research it but I've got this thing called "Magical Thinking". Like where your mind creates insane penalties for not carrying out totally unrelated menial tasks. Like "If I don't put this cutlery away in this particular order, and within the next 30 seconds, then **** will die."

When it's at its worst it takes over every minute task in a day. I should speak to someone about it really 😂

I've had a touch of that, cbt can help.

Can be connected to a previous mental trauma or suchlike.

 

51 minutes ago, royal white said:

Nowt wrong with that mate. People relax in different ways, relaxing for me is going for a long walk with the ear phones in. 

Mad innit. My wife can easily plonk down with a big bag of sweets and nail a full boxset without moving a muscle.

Im now building the lads footy net he got for his birthday.

@Marc505in a similar way, I have to earn my pint or tea later. Dont think Ill die like

1 hour ago, gonzo said:

Anyone else struggle to relax?

Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries.

Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly.

Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain.

 

Very much

Mrs says don’t get up early at weekends but I’m programmed for 5.30, just been away I’m on the beach at 6am for a walk as I’m wide awake

Not got the patience/attention to watch tv as I’m up all fidgety, also hate staying in one pub I get bored need to move on

Love going for random walks the mrs thinks I’m bonkers 

1 hour ago, Tonge moor green jacket said:

I've had a touch of that, cbt can help.

Can be connected to a previous mental trauma or suchlike.

 

I've heard CBT is the way to deal with it. Also simply by breaking the hold of it by not doing what your mind is telling you to do. Much harder than it sounds though!

38 minutes ago, gonzo said:

 

@Marc505in a similar way, I have to earn my pint or tea later. Dont think Ill die like

Wouldn't mind, its never me in danger! 

2 hours ago, gonzo said:

Anyone else struggle to relax?

Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries.

Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly.

Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain.

 

Have you tried milk thistle mate?

2 hours ago, gonzo said:

Anyone else struggle to relax?

Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries.

Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly.

Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain.

 

Nope, I'm  the other way .

I can quite happily while away a day doing absolutely fuck all 

10 minutes ago, London Wanderer said:

Have you tried milk thistle mate?

Just mixed some in my bong water

1 hour ago, mickbrown said:

Nope, I'm  the other way .

I can quite happily while away a day doing absolutely fuck all 

Me too

But i call it lethargy

 

3 hours ago, Marc505 said:

I can't and I've worked out its either an upbringing thing, OCD or both.

I can't relax until all the odd jobs are done. Cant watch telly or go on xbox, read or whatever until everything is clean and tidy and that's either from my mum bollocking me about not being able to go out or play on Sonic or whatever until I've done the chores - or it's an OCD thing.

Took a long time to actually bite the bullet and research it but I've got this thing called "Magical Thinking". Like where your mind creates insane penalties for not carrying out totally unrelated menial tasks. Like "If I don't put this cutlery away in this particular order, and within the next 30 seconds, then **** will die."

When it's at its worst it takes over every minute task in a day. I should speak to someone about it really 😂

I’m similar. Never switch the telly on til gone 7pm. Mrs says that I look for things to do - gardening, DIY, cleaning, swimming, etc. Never lie in. Will always get up and find summat to do. Love time on my own. I find all that relaxing tbh

2 hours ago, Marc505 said:

I've heard CBT is the way to deal with it. Also simply by breaking the hold of it by not doing what your mind is telling you to do. Much harder than it sounds though!

Wouldn't mind, its never me in danger! 

Don't recommend CBT to Gonzo rather than a seeing a shrink he'll be getting a lass in hobnail boots to kick him in the knackers.

I struggle to sit still (ball ache when driving). 

Tend to just move around a bit and work a lot.

5 hours ago, Casino said:

Me too

But i call it lethargy

 

I'm definitely one of life's loafers.

2 hours ago, mickbrown said:

I'm definitely one of life's loafers.

Love the word “loafer”

Reminds me of this Madness classic

 

 

On 23/07/2023 at 12:02, gonzo said:

Anyone else struggle to relax?

Really pisses me off, cant sit and do nothing or recharge the batteries.

Like a cat on hot bricks all the time, cant even watch telly.

Obviously not a serious issue like but currently walking the dog for his 2nd time today in the pissing rain.

 

I’m still pissing about quietly tidying up and putting stuff away. It’s now 3:55am.

I’m waiting for about 4:30 when I’ll get to sleep probably.

On 21/12/2022 at 16:39, Leyther_Matt said:

 

Cheers both. He's been on medication for a couple of weeks now so hopefully that will help to control things. 

Had s pretty severe seizure last night.

Out of the blue.

A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit.

Certainly a mixed bag of approaches.

4 hours ago, Tonge moor green jacket said:

Had s pretty severe seizure last night.

Out of the blue.

A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit.

Certainly a mixed bag of approaches.

We had years of that before finally getting a diagnosis and the medication to go with it. Sadly it seems there’s likely to be a few more seizures ahead before you’re able to get to that stage. 

Hope you’re up and about soon enough. Must be an incredibly draining experience. And so frustrating to not know the cause. All the best pal. 

Edited August 8, 20232 yr by Leyther_Matt
Added best wishes like a normal person

2 hours ago, Tonge moor green jacket said:

Had s pretty severe seizure last night.

Out of the blue.

A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit.

Certainly a mixed bag of approaches.

Hope you’re alright bud 

3 hours ago, Tonge moor green jacket said:

Had s pretty severe seizure last night.

Out of the blue.

A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit.

Certainly a mixed bag of approaches.

absolute farce sometimes. 

Only round corner if you need anything or want a brew with a chatterbox 😛

 

53 minutes ago, London Wanderer said:

Hope you’re alright bud 

Seconded. Keep well mate 

4 hours ago, Tonge moor green jacket said:

Had s pretty severe seizure last night.

Out of the blue.

A&E doc pretty much sent me home and said there was no real need to have gone in- just told to monitor them and if they get worse, then they will revisit.

Certainly a mixed bag of approaches.

Hope you’re feeling better mate 👍

Thanks all for the best wishes.

Sore body- calves like you're cramping up after 30 minutes of extra time. 

Neck and shoulders, and a badly bitten tongue making swallowing difficult. 

Mainly knackered, but quite pleased with how well I'm recovering. Couple of days and should be fine, except for driving of course.

Whether it was due (at least in part) to stress etc, who knows.

Rest up and hope you're feeling back to normal sharpish.