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Mental Health/Depression

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No pills for me

If it doesnt get better, the job goes

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  • MancWanderer
    MancWanderer

    Anyway. Back to mental health, etc and away from Friday Night Fight Club Said it before on here, even though I started this thread, I’ve never suffered any mental health issues myself. Never get

  • Just to add to this . I am an ex nurse both general and mental health with nearly 30 years experience and as someone who has suffered with mental health problems , diagnosed and medicated for nearly 2

  • AdvantagePlayer
    AdvantagePlayer

    Read all 46 pages of this thread last night.  Rang doctors first thing this morning, and got GP appointment.  Now hooked up with referral to a couple of support services.  You don't know me, but

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1 minute ago, Casino said:

No pills for me

If it doesnt get better, the job goes

That's what I said for a year.

A year suffering; try other things obviously, but don't wholly reject anything.

Get the firepit going too and have some relaxation. If you need any logs, let me know.

:)

drop some whenever pal

Side doof of garage is unlocked tmrw

Other than that, if its in a bag, whenever

n thanks again!

1 minute ago, Casino said:

:)

drop some whenever pal

Side doof of garage is unlocked tmrw

Other than that, if its in a bag, whenever

n thanks again!

No worries- will be in the afternoon- I have a rather large garden to mow round the corner from you.

Genuinely amazes me how many on here go through stuff. 

14 hours ago, Casino said:

 

 

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22 hours ago, Casino said:

No pills for me

If it doesnt get better, the job goes

i think most companys now feel they have a divine right to treat there employees like shite these days, most employees 50 plus end up costing the company they work for more money, pensions,time off with elderly parents,time on sick,and they dont want you on the books 

Really? I think companies are better than ever. Tomorrow I've got an afternoon off - mental wellness, you get a afternoon a month but you should use it for yourself - a hobby, volunteering, whatever. Going to a museum.

Let me finish early to pick the kids up when I have to, no need to make the time back. Got furlough to home school the kids with no pay deduction. Its pretty good, and a lot of companies I know are the same.

Mental health is much higher on HR agenda's than ever.

1 hour ago, fester58 said:

i think most companys now feel they have a divine right to treat there employees like shite these days, most employees 50 plus end up costing the company they work for more money, pensions,time off with elderly parents,time on sick,and they dont want you on the books 

Ageism isn't new. Been going on for a long time.

Lots more protection around now, but no doubt shit still goes on- this fire and rehire bollocks for example.

For me, societal changes more widely contribute significantly to our mental health.

Populatioj density, social media, the pace of life and instant gratification, 24 hr 7 days a week, poor diet, lack of exercise, and a lack of genuine quality family time.

Folk rushing round all over the country working, compressing so much into a short period of time. 

1 hour ago, fester58 said:

i think most companys now feel they have a divine right to treat there employees like shite these days, most employees 50 plus end up costing the company they work for more money, pensions,time off with elderly parents,time on sick,and they dont want you on the books 

Think I’d be unemployable any where else, but I bring in more sales than any else, must admit I do less hours and have more holidays than anyone in our  company, but If you put my requirements on a cv any employer would run a million miles. 

1 hour ago, Not in Crawley said:

Really? I think companies are better than ever. Tomorrow I've got an afternoon off - mental wellness, you get a afternoon a month but you should use it for yourself - a hobby, volunteering, whatever. Going to a museum.

Let me finish early to pick the kids up when I have to, no need to make the time back. Got furlough to home school the kids with no pay deduction. Its pretty good, and a lot of companies I know are the same.

Mental health is much higher on HR agenda's than ever.

Aye, mental health days are all over northern manufacturing companies

Its not a dig, honest, but you dont have a clue what lifes like for lots of us

And ill make it clear, im not treated badly, the pressure i feel is mainly down to me

I just dont deal with it very well

28 minutes ago, Tonge moor green jacket said:

Ageism isn't new. Been going on for a long time.

Lots more protection around now, but no doubt shit still goes on- this fire and rehire bollocks for example.

For me, societal changes more widely contribute significantly to our mental health.

Populatioj density, social media, the pace of life and instant gratification, 24 hr 7 days a week, poor diet, lack of exercise, and a lack of genuine quality family time.

Folk rushing round all over the country working, compressing so much into a short period of time. 

made me think of this..

 

12 hours ago, Casino said:

Aye, mental health days are all over northern manufacturing companies

Its not a dig, honest, but you dont have a clue what lifes like for lots of us

And ill make it clear, im not treated badly, the pressure i feel is mainly down to me

I just dont deal with it very well

Fair enough, the places I've worked have pressure but it's more of a treats to keep you working culture. It's never 9-5. Although I know that easy with afternoons off for health, cocktail hour each Friday, stuff like that.

I do wonder when other places will catch up? You're right though I am very lucky, and that does look rather clumsy.

Just a bit of advice: 

don’t rule out medication. Its not a weakness to take tablets. (20mg citalopram here)  
don’t rule out counselling. Talking therapy can be really useful, don’t feel guilty if you decide to go down this path. 

Has nobody suggested manning up yet? 😉

7 hours ago, Traf said:

Has nobody suggested manning up yet? 😉

Err it’s themming up now 

9 hours ago, Rudy said:

Err it’s themming up now 

😁

Quality. 

15 hours ago, Rudy said:

Err it’s themming up now 

Cheers, Gaylord.

  • 4 months later...

Greif is one cruel mistress.

2 minutes ago, gonzo said:

Greif is one cruel mistress.

Tell me about it. Wait ages for the clouds to pass then feel a cunt for enjoying yourself in the short periods that they do.

I'm finding there's no rules to it and almost no advice you can be given that truly helps, just know you've a forum full here of people who will try anyway 🙂

9 minutes ago, gonzo said:

Greif is one cruel mistress.

Time does help, lost my mum over 20 years ago and some days usually driving on long journey on my own and my mind goes back to that day and tears come rolling back. It’s the price we pay for the love they gave us. 
 

 

11 minutes ago, gonzo said:

Greif is one cruel mistress.

Hope you are OK pal. 

Try and stick with what keeps you positive rather than going down other paths.

But wouldn't wish what you are going through on anyone. 

3 minutes ago, Mounts Kipper said:

Time does help, lost my mum over 20 years ago and some days usually driving on long journey on my own and my mind goes back to that day and tears come rolling back. It’s the price we pay for the love they gave us. 
 

 

Yep. 

Lost my grandad in Feb and my grandma on Wednesday. They both survived 20 odd years as widows/widowers after early deaths of my other grandparents but went this year... 

I've thought about them loads this year (and my other grandparents)... 

It's shit. 

 

There's no easy answer, use the love of your family to help. Talk, cry or laugh together. Stay strong together. Come out the other side together. 

 

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