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Mental Health/Depression

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3 hours ago, Smiley said:

‘Kin ‘ell, just skim-read the last 6-7 pages. Everyone is falling apart!!

Seriously, hoping all is well for Leyther Matt and L/H White. And a few pages back, great long post from Crawley - knocked a lot on the head with that post. Really hard to wake up every morning without your kids under the same roof as you. And go through many years of your life only seeing them a handful of times a month. But you pull through. Just have an eternal guilt that you didn’t do enough, get involved enough, provide enough, etc. But that’s all bollocks in the end. Had a great day on the lash and at the beach with my 20-year-old in Devon last week. Didn’t quite enjoy cleaning her bastarding filthy student house the day after in the heat with a hangover! Dragging six girls worth of pubes and hair with soap scum out of the shower plug hole… and cleaning out scuzzy fridges and freezers (my pet hates in life are dirty fridges/dirty microwaves). The smell in the house was like a 7 year-old cum sock that’s been forgotten about and has weeds growing out of it!!

Still love them and the feeling is reciprocal. (Daughters, not cum socks).

It doesn't get easier, you just cope better.

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9 hours ago, gonzo said:

Its amazing how understated diet, hydration and exercise is with mental health.

Ive felt shit these past few weeks, being eating utter shit, drinking fuck all water and nailing the ale at weekends. Chuck Big Es civil ceremony in there and its a recipe for disaster.

Got on top of past few days and instantly feel brand new. 

 

 

what's amazing is how amazed I am when I realise this yet again

as in

have a time off the booze with good exercise - diet ok

feel great

have a beer - meh, not bad, but won't have any tonight

then I do, feel a bit more shitty, end up having more that night

few nights in a row, right, I feel like shit, I'm not enjoying this, need time off

instantly feel better, like it's a surprise

more time off booze, feel great

then think I'll just have a few beers tonight, won't do any harm

then next day maybe a few tonight, but that's it for a few days

it's not

and so on

currently on day 2 of a break after inadvertently ending up on it for 7 nights

43 minutes ago, Zico said:

what's amazing is how amazed I am when I realise this yet again

as in

have a time off the booze with good exercise - diet ok

feel great

have a beer - meh, not bad, but won't have any tonight

then I do, feel a bit more shitty, end up having more that night

few nights in a row, right, I feel like shit, I'm not enjoying this, need time off

instantly feel better, like it's a surprise

more time off booze, feel great

then think I'll just have a few beers tonight, won't do any harm

then next day maybe a few tonight, but that's it for a few days

it's not

and so on

currently on day 2 of a break after inadvertently ending up on it for 7 nights

Spot on.

That month off I had really was an eye opener.

But, and this is the clincher, I fucking ADORE beer

57 minutes ago, Zico said:

what's amazing is how amazed I am when I realise this yet again

as in

have a time off the booze with good exercise - diet ok

feel great

have a beer - meh, not bad, but won't have any tonight

then I do, feel a bit more shitty, end up having more that night

few nights in a row, right, I feel like shit, I'm not enjoying this, need time off

instantly feel better, like it's a surprise

more time off booze, feel great

then think I'll just have a few beers tonight, won't do any harm

then next day maybe a few tonight, but that's it for a few days

it's not

and so on

currently on day 2 of a break after inadvertently ending up on it for 7 nights

So true. Like TMGC alluded to, its the mind telling you need something for a quick hit to boost your senses.

During a bad phase I feast on carbs and high sugars. My daily order at Abingdon bbq last week was a large sausage, bacon and egg baton, two hash browns in a bag and a pie for later.

In from work, 4 slices of toast and bag of crisps to see me on till my tea. 

Absolute madness. Wonder why I was up late every morning eve after 9 hours solid kip.

 

 

The last 3 months are probably the shittest I've felt in a long long time and that's primarily down to me reaching for the ale, then eating shit, and doing no exercise.

Like everyone has said, we're all experienced enough to know it's a shitty circle but all keep going back to it which goes to show how addictive a drug it really is.

48 minutes ago, Spider said:

Spot on.

That month off I had really was an eye opener.

But, and this is the clincher, I fucking ADORE beer

Me too 

I really need to get into the habit of only having beer on a Saturday night and social occasions  

Generally been quite good at it last couple of months 

But it's midweek socials that are the problem 

Had a meal last Tuesday so had beer, the away for the weekend Friday to Monday, so might as well weds Thurs, and if I'm having a break I'll squeeze Monday in plus it was nice 

Last month the issue was my birthday being on a Wednesday 

Should probably stay off it till Wycombe at home  

I already know that with that league cup game Tuesday following it that will be a binge period 

Still 

Have improved since the daily drinking in 2020/2021 days 

11 minutes ago, Zico said:

Me too 

I really need to get into the habit of only having beer on a Saturday night and social occasions  

Generally been quite good at it last couple of months 

But it's midweek socials that are the problem 

Had a meal last Tuesday so had beer, the away for the weekend Friday to Monday, so might as well weds Thurs, and if I'm having a break I'll squeeze Monday in plus it was nice 

Last month the issue was my birthday being on a Wednesday 

Should probably stay off it till Wycombe at home  

I already know that with that league cup game Tuesday following it that will be a binge period 

Still 

Have improved since the daily drinking in 2020/2021 days 

I'm told that drinking fizzy water whilst smelling a handful of dried hops is a good, if utterly desperate and pathetic way to replicate the sensation of having a drink.

During my month off I did drink a fair few 0% beers and the german ones were mainly decent.

32 minutes ago, ErnestTurnip said:

The last 3 months are probably the shittest I've felt in a long long time and that's primarily down to me reaching for the ale, then eating shit, and doing no exercise.

Like everyone has said, we're all experienced enough to know it's a shitty circle but all keep going back to it which goes to show how addictive a drug it really is.

Utterly frightening.

My wife is always the first to spot when I need it rather than want it and Im beginning to slip in to old ways.

Scary how it can grab hold.

Its also scary how much ale is ingrained on our culture and how many functional alcoholics we all know.

8 hours ago, Not in Crawley said:

Can we get another person who as at least been an officer in the armed forces round here, otherwise we have to this to this guff from the RW piss bucket of idiocy.

How desperate are you? I think I was a Sixer in Cubs.

Mumsnet

Right 

That's it 

No booze till Wycombe 

Except on Saturdays

10 minutes ago, Zico said:

Right 

That's it 

No booze till Wycombe 

Except on Saturdays

No way I cant drink Sunday if I've drank Saturday :D

Good luck pal, no ale for me now till vale.

I've never drank at home as much as I do now. I dont smoke or do drugs so fuck it im having a drink. Nowt better recently than once kids are asleep, sitting in the garden in silence having a few cold ones. Need to know my cut off though cos I can get abusive with people who have pissed me off  🙃

14 hours ago, stevieb said:

HBATOFGT? 

Might have to play hangman with this one pal…

1 hour ago, Zico said:

Right 

That's it 

No booze till Wycombe 

Except on Saturdays

Are beach days exempt? I feel that a pint of Staropramen with a salad lunch on Saturday didn’t really set me up for the couple of beers and 2 ciders at the beach with you. After we went our separate ways, I ended up having 2-3 pints of Madri, half a bottle of red wine and then onto a couple of Aperol Spritz. Did stuff a pizza down me though.

Cleaning gutters on a caravan the following morning with a hangover and very little sleep (will return to this below) is a recipe for getting the noose out!

Ahhh, beered-up sleep. Not that feeling a bit grim after mixing your drinks the previous day and eating shite is enough, throw in that rocking and rolling in bed, half asleep, half grumbling and farting, 5 trips for a piss and 23 degree heat. Before you know it, its morning and you’ve had next to no sleep.

Need to knock the ale on the head. And mixing. That’s the devil’s work.

2 hours ago, gonzo said:

No way I cant drink Sunday if I've drank Saturday :D

Good luck pal, no ale for me now till vale.

I've found that the biggest challenge, stopping for that first night

once I get that out the way, it's not so bad

but stopping for a night, when you know you're having one the next night or so, that's also a challenge

the toughest days are sunday, tuesday and wednesday

38 minutes ago, Smiley said:

Are beach days exempt? I feel that a pint of Staropramen with a salad lunch on Saturday didn’t really set me up for the couple of beers and 2 ciders at the beach with you. After we went our separate ways, I ended up having 2-3 pints of Madri, half a bottle of red wine and then onto a couple of Aperol Spritz. Did stuff a pizza down me though.

Cleaning gutters on a caravan the following morning with a hangover and very little sleep (will return to this below) is a recipe for getting the noose out!

Ahhh, beered-up sleep. Not that feeling a bit grim after mixing your drinks the previous day and eating shite is enough, throw in that rocking and rolling in bed, half asleep, half grumbling and farting, 5 trips for a piss and 23 degree heat. Before you know it, its morning and you’ve had next to no sleep.

Need to knock the ale on the head. And mixing. That’s the devil’s work.

Trips? For a piss? Just how big is this caravan if the distance between bed and entry door qualifies as a trip? Surely you just stand at the door and piss don’t you?

2 hours ago, Smiley said:

Might have to play hangman with this one pal…

How big are the other five girls tits

Only been having a little tipple for a year or so (since last year's euros), after packing it in for a few years following my last seizure. 

Never been a big drinker anyway, but I stopped anyway, and now I'll have a bottle of beer, or a glass of wine of an evening and that's it. Did share a bottle of wine one evening this holiday, but did bowt last night. 

Can enjoy a little drink more now than ever, as it is genuinely about the taste.

6 hours ago, stevieb said:

How big are the other five girls tits

Haha! Sadly none of them were there. But I did bump into them on one occasion, and I seem to recall 4/5 weren’t too shabby.

Im doing a cut back to max 5% supermarket lagers period

Its saving a few quid

Without regular exercise I dread to think how my mental state would be, after a couple of days without I get edgy and tetchy, soon as I’ve done even 1 hour I’m feeling 100% better, as I get older I just hope my body allows me to continue to exercise.
Exercise and cutting back on alcohol really is the best thing for mental health IMHO. 
 

P.S. also stay away from negative types. 

Edited by Mounts Kipper

14 hours ago, Mounts Kipper said:

Without regular exercise I dread to think how my mental state would be, after a couple of days without I get edgy and tetchy, soon as I’ve done even 1 hour I’m feeling 100% better, as I get older I just hope my body allows me to continue to exercise.
Exercise and cutting back on alcohol really is the best thing for mental health IMHO. 
 

P.S. also stay away from negative types. 

Strangely, exercise can become addictive, and the brain can start craving it, making you feel a bit shit if you miss a bit.

Like anything I suppose, too much of a good think..

My beer uptake goes up loads when it’s sunny. I love it too. 

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