Mental Health/Depression

[batton carrier]

2 hours ago, gonzo said:

Good to hear.

I'm OK, really need a good stint off the ale. Just does me no favours at all.

Gonna try a proper test from tomorrow and shift the brain fog.

Sober till October....😵‍💫😵‍💫

I did 3 months off ale at start of year not a drop. It completely reset my relationship with it . You don't realise until you get off it just how much it affects you day to day. It is creeping it's way back into my life again and I am going to do a couple months off once the invites to events stop coming in.

I have got 2.5  stone off since Christmas and that has had a great affect on me mentally and physically. I don't ache as much and I don't hate the guy in the mirror like I used to. Still struggle with anxiety/depression but seem much more able to cope with it when it rears it's ugly head.

Depression is a horrible horrible bastard of an illness .You think you have it beat then boom it blindsides you when you are least expecting it.

It is good that we are able to talk about it now.

[Tonge moor green jacket]

Stuff for my anxiety/epilepsy puts weight on.

Affects fitness and gets you down! 🤔😁

 

[frank_spencer]

Been pretty shit this past week. Feeling a bit brighter today.

I need to mow the garden but an afternoon on the sofa with my lad playing XBox has won out.

[Zico]

3 hours ago, gonzo said:

Good to hear.

I'm OK, really need a good stint off the ale. Just does me no favours at all.

Gonna try a proper test from tomorrow and shift the brain fog.

Sober till October....😵‍💫😵‍💫

Starting to develop a strange relationship with/attitude towards alcohol. 

I really starting to not like how a night on the beer makes me feel the next day 

Anxious and resentful 

I genuinely feel really happy in myself if I wake up having not had one

I don't mind so much if it's a social occasion 

I think I just need to stop during the week 

And calm it down at the weekend, especially if I'm just sat at home

[radcliffe white]

1 hour ago, Zico said:

Starting to develop a strange relationship with/attitude towards alcohol. 

I really starting to not like how a night on the beer makes me feel the next day 

Anxious and resentful 

I genuinely feel really happy in myself if I wake up having not had one

I don't mind so much if it's a social occasion 

I think I just need to stop during the week 

And calm it down at the weekend, especially if I'm just sat at home

I’ve been like that for years 

[tomski]

I’m glad I don’t have these thoughts about beer 

[gonzo]

2 hours ago, Zico said:

Starting to develop a strange relationship with/attitude towards alcohol. 

I really starting to not like how a night on the beer makes me feel the next day 

Anxious and resentful 

I genuinely feel really happy in myself if I wake up having not had one

I don't mind so much if it's a social occasion 

I think I just need to stop during the week 

And calm it down at the weekend, especially if I'm just sat at home

All so true. Proper love hate relationship.

I absolutely love it. Love a pint after work and love that little haze and disconnection from my firecracker mind.

Trouble is I can't stop at a couple. I sleep like shit, wake up with beer fear at 4am, eat shit the day after and generally feel like shit. Affects my mood for days.

My Mrs hates me pissed too and it's the only thing we row about.

[gonzo]

3 hours ago, burnden said:

My dad passed away Tuesday , beating myself up that i couldn't get there in time to be with him ( got to within a few miles then got the call saying he had gone) ....Heads all over the shop tbh.   Cancer and Dementia he had, got pneumonia on top.

Awful mate but don't be too harsh on yourself. You don't get to choose when you go pal.

Hopefully he's at peace now x

[DirtySanchez]

7 hours ago, gonzo said:

Good to hear.

I'm OK, really need a good stint off the ale. Just does me no favours at all.

Gonna try a proper test from tomorrow and shift the brain fog.

Sober till October....😵‍💫😵‍💫

Am two weeks into a break from the ale

No idea how long I'll do it for but October sounds a plan to make it meaningful 

Got some alcohol free ones in for last night, had one then couldn't be arsed with the rest and ended up having a brew 

Oddly I've developed a craving for pate on toast and Rocky chocolate bars (not at the same time) 

Strange things are afoot 

[Traf]

3 hours ago, Zico said:

Starting to develop a strange relationship with/attitude towards alcohol. 

I really starting to not like how a night on the beer makes me feel the next day 

Anxious and resentful 

aka the fear

[Dimron]

5 hours ago, burnden said:

My dad passed away Tuesday , beating myself up that i couldn't get there in time to be with him ( got to within a few miles then got the call saying he had gone) ....Heads all over the shop tbh.   Cancer and Dementia he had, got pneumonia on top.

Sorry to hear that mate, he'd have understood.

Is your Mum still around? 

[Zico]

26 minutes ago, Traf said:

aka the fear

yeah, though thinking about it in this case, anxious probably isn't the right word

more agigitated

sat there having a beer of an evening, this is nice, one more won't do any harm

next day

thinking why did i end up getting pissed last night, feel like shit now, got loads to do, dick, definitely not having one tonight

and my minds voice be like

 

[gonzo]

16 minutes ago, Zico said:

yeah, though thinking about it in this case, anxious probably isn't the right word

more agigitated

sat there having a beer of an evening, this is nice, one more won't do any harm

next day

thinking why did i end up getting pissed last night, feel like shit now, got loads to do, dick, definitely not having one tonight

and my minds voice be like

 

Its a broad term anxiety. So is depression tbf. So many different layers.

Beer fear is a real condition. Totally avoidable like but it's proper all the same.

Why on holiday I can't sleep in and go running. Folk think I'm a fitness freak but far from it. I just can't sleep, riddled with the fear and it's way too early to drink

[batton carrier]

1 hour ago, DirtySanchez said:

Am two weeks into a break from the ale

No idea how long I'll do it for but October sounds a plan to make it meaningful 

Got some alcohol free ones in for last night, had one then couldn't be arsed with the rest and ended up having a brew 

Oddly I've developed a craving for pate on toast and Rocky chocolate bars (not at the same time) 

Strange things are afoot 

The sugar craving is part of the process of coming off alcohol. It will pass . So will the munchies. Your skin and sleep will improve and before you know it you will feel like there are more hours in your day. The first 3 weeks I found so hard after that it got easier. It is worth it

[batton carrier]

6 hours ago, burnden said:

My dad passed away Tuesday , beating myself up that i couldn't get there in time to be with him ( got to within a few miles then got the call saying he had gone) ....Heads all over the shop tbh.   Cancer and Dementia he had, got pneumonia on top.

Losing parents is so hard mate and we are sort of told it is just something we have to go through. It hurts like fuck. I lost my mum just over 2 years ago and I just wasn't prepared for how much I miss her. Hope you are ok ,

Death is a fucking bastard 

[Zico]

6 minutes ago, gonzo said:

Its a broad term anxiety. So is depression tbf. So many different layers.

Beer fear is a real condition. Totally avoidable like but it's proper all the same.

Why on holiday I can't sleep in and go running. Folk think I'm a fitness freak but far from it. I just can't sleep, riddled with the fear and it's way too early to drink

Yeah been there and done that with the beer and weed anxiety 

I think I just know at the moment I want to get in as good a shape as I can mentally and physically 

Joined a new gym, wanted to go back to a PT and never liked classes but this one does these sort of group classes that work really well

And am eating better

I reckon I could be as peak as I've ever been if it wasn't for booze

It just keeps getting in way

I love it and hate it in equal measure 

I managed to quit cigs and weed for similar reasons 

But I don't want to quit booze 

It won't let me

[gonzo]

There's always a function or event or meal out or funeral or catch up with a pal.

Ingrained on our society. 

You finish work, you have a beer, you to airport you have a beer, someone dies you raise a toast, your mate wants a catch up you go for pints, bob in to see the old man you have a tinny, you go match you have pint before and one at half time etc etc 

Just can't get away from it. Then you look like a cunt not drinking at stuff and you realise everything is shit without a beer anyway.

[frank_spencer]

7 minutes ago, gonzo said:

There's always a function or event or meal out or funeral or catch up with a pal.

Ingrained on our society. 

You finish work, you have a beer, you to airport you have a beer, someone dies you raise a toast, your mate wants a catch up you go for pints, bob in to see the old man you have a tinny, you go match you have pint before and one at half time etc etc 

Just can't get away from it. Then you look like a cunt not drinking at stuff and you realise everything is shit without a beer anyway.

My get out is I always drive to stuff when I don't want to drink. Then you've got a self imposed reason to not drink and a socially acceptable excuse to stop the peer pressure

[Zico]

4 minutes ago, frank_spencer said:

My get out is I always drive to stuff when I don't want to drink. Then you've got a self imposed reason to not drink and a socially acceptable excuse to stop the peer pressure

You can have two and drive though easy 

Then have four more when you get home as a reward for being so restrained

[burnden]

1 hour ago, Dimron said:

Sorry to hear that mate, he'd have understood.

Is your Mum still around? 

No mate she passed away almost 2 yrs ago . TBH straight after that is when he got ill.

[MancWanderer]

10 hours ago, gonzo said:

How's everyone doing?

 

First off

@captainmed thoughts to you. Dealt with my dad’s dementia for many years before he died. Not easy at all. Hope your mum gets good care

@burnden condolences 

Me? Brilliant. Couple of short breaks in the sun courtesy of Traf tours did wonders to escape the misery of this weather. Really believe that Vitamin D boost of the sun does you good. Otherwise, I just make sure that I exercise. Swim 3 times a week, get on the bike when I can and walk when there’s no other option. Big thing for me is I never, ever watch the telly before 7pm. Rarely watch before 8pm. I’ll find summat to do. The garden, odd jobs, whatever, just summat to occupy myself. Genuinely hate sitting on my arse. I know that I drink too much. Rarely to excess, but it’s always a reward after doing summat. Don’t beat myself up about it so never have regrets.

Had a period earlier this year when I damaged a muscle in my neck/shoulder and got a referral to a physio as I was in bits. Sadly it coincided with the death of one of my best mate so I wasn’t in the best of places. Absolutely hammered the exercise using light weights. Cleared it up and I was top of the world. Felt good and continue with the exercise every day to this day and onwards

Rambling now but my thought is do what you can to keep yourself active no matter how little or gentle. Just don’t sit on your arse if you can avoid it

[Alf Hartigan]

Some brilliant posts on here, and without going into detail I’ve had an horrendous few years with my mental health. I’m good at the moment but  if anyone wants to meet for a chat please message me.

[Ani]

I have been lucky regarding drink and drugs, have had great times on both , but during a couple of times intake was starting to get silly.

At home on my own drinking and partaking in the evenings. Fortunately cut back before it took over.

These days never drink in the house and go weeks without, just had a week away and drank every day , back home and won't drink till Thursday when got a do over in Bolton. If not for that could easily do 4 weeks with no beer.  But I am very conscious that I was not a million miles off being in a very bad place. Got mates who every night with their partners get through at least 2 bottles of wine. 

[Blondi]

I'm doing fine, just taking 10mg of citalaprom and 40mg of propranolol a day at the moment, I'm trying my best to keep the family business going and helping my elderly parents too, my Mum is recovering from an operation due to her cancer, I have just one sibling, a sister who's a recovering alcoholic who now has alcoholic dementia, apart from that, everything is ok.

[Dimron]

48 minutes ago, burnden said:

No mate she passed away almost 2 yrs ago . TBH straight after that is when he got ill.

I know where you are, I felt like everything I knew and related to had gone after the last of my parents (Mum in my case) left us all... it takes time but we can all support each other, even on these web pages.

Take care