Mental Health/Depression

[tomski]

On 13/08/2024 at 12:31, Sweep said:

Sad times mate, sad times indeed. 😢 Oliver is doing OK (as well as can be expected) so I understand. The "Gofundme" set up for him, for us future, is currently at over £23K,which hopefully can give him a bit of a start, once he's old enough to go to college/uni or whatever. 

Grrrr that’s grim. Nice to find mutual shit but not in that way. Go and see gippo jugs in the rose

[Sweep]

3 minutes ago, tomski said:

Grrrr that’s grim. Nice to find mutual shit but not in that way. Go and see gippo jugs in the rose

Hoping to see her tomorrow night 😊

[burnden]

Finally got to lay my dad to rest yesterday almost 6 weeks after he passed away.....It is a relief, feels like a weight has been lifted...many tales told ,many pints with rum chasers sunk, a good celebration of his life with the family.

[gonzo]

4 minutes ago, burnden said:

Finally got to lay my dad to rest yesterday almost 6 weeks after he passed away.....It is a relief, feels like a weight has been lifted...many tales told ,many pints with rum chasers sunk, a good celebration of his life with the family.

Glad it all went ok pal 💙

[boogs]

Got a call yesterday to tell me a mate of mine ended his own life. 

Great lad, life and soul of any room he was in and every other cliche. I'd not seen him for a few months but knew he was going through a tough time and had all intentions to give him a shout and see him for the last few weeks, but as with everyone, life got in the way and never got round to it. Not sure it would have made much difference as he was with a few mates on Monday night, all had a laugh apparently, went home then he did that 😢

Anyway, not attention seeking...... just thought I'd put a reminder out to people to speak out. I suppose there were signs (easy to think that after the event) but knowing him, I'm absolutely sure he was bottling stuff up for ages and it must have just come to the point he thought that was the only option. 

Talk to your friends/family if your struggling chaps!!!!!

[Winchester White]

Sorry to hear that Boogs

[gonzo]

Sorry to hear that Boogs, absolutely awful.

There was well known DJ lad from Bolton did the same last week. Few lads on here will know him and his circle of friends.

So tragic

[Tonge moor green jacket]

So sad.

Presumably he has family etc that are bereft.

Maybe have a chat with them when the time is right?

 

[Alf Hartigan]

1 hour ago, boogs said:

Got a call yesterday to tell me a mate of mine ended his own life. 

Great lad, life and soul of any room he was in and every other cliche. I'd not seen him for a few months but knew he was going through a tough time and had all intentions to give him a shout and see him for the last few weeks, but as with everyone, life got in the way and never got round to it. Not sure it would have made much difference as he was with a few mates on Monday night, all had a laugh apparently, went home then he did that 😢

Anyway, not attention seeking...... just thought I'd put a reminder out to people to speak out. I suppose there were signs (easy to think that after the event) but knowing him, I'm absolutely sure he was bottling stuff up for ages and it must have just come to the point he thought that was the only option. 

Talk to your friends/family if your struggling chaps!!!!!

Sorry to hear that pal. Someone off here contacted me when I was on the edge. Never met him but spoken loads in posts during the years. Really helped. Said it before but please DM me if you need to talk to someone you don’t know. Actually, that sounds a bit creepy 😂

[tomski]

Sorry to hear this Boogs 

[MancWanderer]

4 hours ago, boogs said:

Got a call yesterday to tell me a mate of mine ended his own life. 

Great lad, life and soul of any room he was in and every other cliche. I'd not seen him for a few months but knew he was going through a tough time and had all intentions to give him a shout and see him for the last few weeks, but as with everyone, life got in the way and never got round to it. Not sure it would have made much difference as he was with a few mates on Monday night, all had a laugh apparently, went home then he did that 😢

Anyway, not attention seeking...... just thought I'd put a reminder out to people to speak out. I suppose there were signs (easy to think that after the event) but knowing him, I'm absolutely sure he was bottling stuff up for ages and it must have just come to the point he thought that was the only option. 

Talk to your friends/family if your struggling chaps!!!!!

Guessing that’s the same lad my brother was telling me about the other day. His son’s mate - my nephew, CB the Massive . He was the first friend that CB made at primary school. He was a lovely bloke. Heartbreaking 💔 

[boogs]

8 hours ago, MancWanderer said:

Guessing that’s the same lad my brother was telling me about the other day. His son’s mate - my nephew, CB the Massive . He was the first friend that CB made at primary school. He was a lovely bloke. Heartbreaking 💔 

Didn't know that. He was a massive as well though, so must be able to sniff each other out at a young age.

It's a strange feeling, I know plenty of people that knew him a lot better than I did, so felt a weird sort of guilt that I got so upset about it.

I gave C a big hug last week and asked him if he was alright as he hasn't been having it easy of late either. 

**don't get me wrong, I'm in no way suggesting that he is at the point of what we're talking about here. 

[little whitt]

4 hours ago, boogs said:

Didn't know that. He was a massive as well though, so must be able to sniff each other out at a young age.

It's a strange feeling, I know plenty of people that knew him a lot better than I did, so felt a weird sort of guilt that I got so upset about it.

I gave C a big hug last week and asked him if he was alright as he hasn't been having it easy of late either. 

**don't get me wrong, I'm in no way suggesting that he is at the point of what we're talking about here. 

must be same chap 

3/4 of my Fb friends 

know

[gonzo]

Our kid is rapidly going down the pan. Absolutely broken

2 years to the day he fell off a ledge while we were working and he's still nowhere near recovered. Was told yesterday he needs another operation and probably one after that too.

The next will be his 11th operation. 8 on one leg and 3 on the other.

Metal rods, pins, plates, 2 bone grafts, external frames and one big horrible skin transplant.

He had to make the decision to retire from our job last week as he will never in his wildest dreams be fit enough. I'm currently in the process of buying him out. He loved his job more than anything. We spent 12 years building it from just a poxy little run of houses to something...well a lot bigger than that.

He's normally the most positive man on the planet. Used to do my head in on a Monday morning whistling and shouting stuff

But it's horrible to see such a normally positive guy on the deck.

His latest issue is ulcers eating away at his skin transplant. Back to ward 4 on the burns unit in Preston where he spent Christmas last year.

Grim as fuck.

What a cruel twist of fate that day was. One slip, split second and bosh life is over as you know it forever.

And yep it couldve been worse. 

 

[Spider]

Remember when it happened, and it looked bad then but just assumed probably like everyone that he’d be back up and at it after a few months.

To read that he’s had to pack up and is still nowhere near fixed is devastating.

Look after him Gonz

[gonzo]

Remember being in the ambulance with him screaming in agony with bone sticking out of his leg.

I'd rang my other brother to get down here who was at work only round the corner.

He came bursting in and took one look and said...

"Fuckin ell kid you could've cut your toenails"

Think they call it gallows humour

[tomski]

Sorry to hear pal. Such a grim story then as it is now. Let’s hope things start moving in his and yours favour sooner rather than later.

[Tonge moor green jacket]

Terrible that Gonz.

I'm sure everyone passes on their best wishes, hopefully that might offer a crumb of comfort.

Away from the physical and mental damage for a moment- did he/you have personal/critical injury cover?

Just wondering if financially he'll be OK going forward.

[gonzo]

18 minutes ago, Tonge moor green jacket said:

Terrible that Gonz.

I'm sure everyone passes on their best wishes, hopefully that might offer a crumb of comfort.

Away from the physical and mental damage for a moment- did he/you have personal/critical injury cover?

Just wondering if financially he'll be OK going forward.

Being silly billys and typical carefree young men we never got round to getting proper cover for ourselves.

He had a small policy to cover a wage which runs out in Jan. Obviously he will still be employable in an other sector so his life insurance doesn't cover that.

We have public liability worth £5m but it doesn't cover us as directors.

Plus there's no insurance in the land which would cover using ladders the way we do 😕

He's gonna have to find work but God knows in what field.

He's on PIP at the min. He's not entitled to housing benefit as he owns his own house. How fucked up is that.

[Lt. Aldo Raine]

They say it's often darkest before the dawn

Let's hope that proves to be the case for your brother

[Alf Hartigan]

Sorry to hear this Gonzo. Do remember all your posts at the time it happened. Hope things improve and he gets sorted with something job wise.

[London Wanderer]

6 hours ago, gonzo said:

Being silly billys and typical carefree young men we never got round to getting proper cover for ourselves.

He had a small policy to cover a wage which runs out in Jan. Obviously he will still be employable in an other sector so his life insurance doesn't cover that.

We have public liability worth £5m but it doesn't cover us as directors.

Plus there's no insurance in the land which would cover using ladders the way we do 😕

He's gonna have to find work but God knows in what field.

He's on PIP at the min. He's not entitled to housing benefit as he owns his own house. How fucked up is that.

Awful for him mate. We all love a moan about work, but can't imagine being told you can't do a job you enjoy anymore. 

How's his physio going? Is he able to keep active at all? 

Hope he finds a path that works for him. 

[BobyBrno]

9 hours ago, gonzo said:

Our kid is rapidly going down the pan. Absolutely broken

2 years to the day he fell off a ledge while we were working and he's still nowhere near recovered. Was told yesterday he needs another operation and probably one after that too.

The next will be his 11th operation. 8 on one leg and 3 on the other.

Metal rods, pins, plates, 2 bone grafts, external frames and one big horrible skin transplant.

He had to make the decision to retire from our job last week as he will never in his wildest dreams be fit enough. I'm currently in the process of buying him out. He loved his job more than anything. We spent 12 years building it from just a poxy little run of houses to something...well a lot bigger than that.

He's normally the most positive man on the planet. Used to do my head in on a Monday morning whistling and shouting stuff

But it's horrible to see such a normally positive guy on the deck.

His latest issue is ulcers eating away at his skin transplant. Back to ward 4 on the burns unit in Preston where he spent Christmas last year.

Grim as fuck.

What a cruel twist of fate that day was. One slip, split second and bosh life is over as you know it forever.

And yep it couldve been worse. 

 

I remember reading books when I was young and the phrase ‘and then one day’ cropped up a lot. It usually led to a significant change to the storyline. It’s the same in life. One day, one hour in fact one second can change our life completely. It could happen to any of us at any time.

Hope your brother gets well soon. 
 

[desperado]

12 hours ago, gonzo said:

Our kid is rapidly going down the pan. Absolutely broken

2 years to the day he fell off a ledge while we were working and he's still nowhere near recovered. Was told yesterday he needs another operation and probably one after that too.

The next will be his 11th operation. 8 on one leg and 3 on the other.

Metal rods, pins, plates, 2 bone grafts, external frames and one big horrible skin transplant.

He had to make the decision to retire from our job last week as he will never in his wildest dreams be fit enough. I'm currently in the process of buying him out. He loved his job more than anything. We spent 12 years building it from just a poxy little run of houses to something...well a lot bigger than that.

He's normally the most positive man on the planet. Used to do my head in on a Monday morning whistling and shouting stuff

But it's horrible to see such a normally positive guy on the deck.

His latest issue is ulcers eating away at his skin transplant. Back to ward 4 on the burns unit in Preston where he spent Christmas last year.

Grim as fuck.

What a cruel twist of fate that day was. One slip, split second and bosh life is over as you know it forever.

And yep it couldve been worse. 

 

Sad to hear pal. Remember reading about it when it first happened, an horrific accident which as you say could have been even worse.

Hopefully a new chapter in life opens for him soon. Good that he has family and friends around him.

[Krimzon]

Just to add to this . I am an ex nurse both general and mental health with nearly 30 years experience and as someone who has suffered with mental health problems , diagnosed and medicated for nearly 25 years , If anyone wants to reach out and talk my contact details are redily available . 

I know I can be a bit spikey on here but I am absolutely professional and can guarantee total confidentiallity .

I am happy to help in anyway I can if anyone thinks that may be of benefit.